When in a relationship in high school, it is easy to allow the influence of friends to affect relationships. Spilling every secret to a best friend seems like the simple option when fighting with a significant other. Often times a friend is more than willing to offer their opinion on perceived solutions to every small issue that will pop up within a relationship, as many times it is easier to look at things analytically from a third party perspective. However, while consulting friends on small issues may have positive results from time to time, it is not a method that can be relied on completely as it will simply lead to more problems in the future.
A harsher crime in many relationships is when one talks their boyfriend or girlfriend’s friends in order mend a problem. Friends often may not know how they truly feel despite having their friend’s best interests at heart, but if the significant other finds out what was done later, it may make them angry with their friends for going behind their back.
A relationship is between two people, not two people and a best friend. Positive habits of communication must be established early on in a relationship if it will continue to be successful. A friend’s advice is usually appreciated by girls especially, but ultimately it should not be a friend who decides how their relationship is going to progress. Both people in the relationship may agree that while friends offer insight into what the other person may be thinking, a friend cannot determine how this makes one feel towards their significant other.
However, despite the importance of communication in a relationship, friends of the opposite sex can provide helpful insight into the minds of significant others, their perspective will often provide assistance that will end small conflicts. However, friends should only be consulted over trivial matters and not the defining arguments in relationships. Working through issues with a significant other sets the foundation for a successful partnership. As a couple moves through the initial phases of a relationship, their handling of conflict will set the tone for the rest of their relationship.
Peer pressure in relationships is an entirely negative thing, this pressure may push one outside of their own comfort zone too quickly and into a step they may not yet be prepared to take. In the end everyone needs to be in control of their own relationship, giving into peer pressured advice from friends will lead to eventual unhappiness because one may not truly be happy in the choices their friends are forcing them to make. Alternatively, the solutions offered by friends may not be in the best interest of the relationship as what works for one may not work for everybody.
When one talks their boyfriend or girlfriend’s friends in order mend a problem. Not only do their friends often not know how they truly feel, but if the significant other finds out what was done later, it may make them angry with their friends for going behind their back.